Research says the our brain sees other people as reflections of ourselves, as if we’re looking at ourselves in a mirror.
The part of the brain known as the “mirror neuron system” appears to get activated, whenever it starts to watch others closely or think of performing a task.
This explains when someone smiles, we tend to automatically smile back without really “wanting” to. Or we cry at movies on seeing someone cry or feel sad.The mirror neurons in our brain fire as if we are actually feeling the emotions of the actors. Thus unless we strongly choose not to do so we are likely to smile back when someone smiles or cry when someone cries. It takes more effort not to smile back than to smile or not to cry than to cry.
Mirror neurons behind the eye sockets connect two people in love.( Thanks to Bollywood – this part has been explained well by Ankho hi Ankho mey ishara ho gaya to Ankhio se goli mare). In an intimate relationship each person mirrors the other person’s internal world of feelings, attractions, intentions, goals, memories, romance, lust, and loyalty.
Its nothing but an amazing game of Mirror Neurons.
When relationships start turning sour, complicated, argumentative, filled with ingratitude, full of hurt, anger resentment and contempt then even if one person initiates, at the end it’s a game of mirror neurons where this toxicity is mirrored and hence multiplied
We love with our brains and not with our hearts,(unlike Bollywood where it all about the heart- ‘dil, ‘jigar’ and the likes)
Our brain is plastic.
It can reshape itself.
It is possible to love a person more than you have ever loved.
It is possible to turn around a toxic relationship into a healthy one.
Dance together, walk together , eat together, watch movies together ( please don’t be on your phones together! ); to fire more mirror neurons and release more oxytocin-the happy hormone.
Happy Mirroring!
Sohini is an educator, artist and mental health advocate. After being a teacher for almost a decade she found her calling again and decided to pursue a career in creative art therapies. When she’s not busy guiding her young learners, Sohini writes on mental health awareness, paints and reads nonfiction. She lives in Kolkata with her mother.